10 Phrases To Calm An Anxious Child.

10 Phrases To Calm An Anxious Child.

Despite Mia’s bubbly and happy exterior, she is a worrier.

She worries about tiny things, big things, and everything in between.

I often wonder why she an anxious child. Sometimes I blame myself, I wonder whether my own severe anxiety has somehow been inherited. I strongly believe that having a little brother with a number of health difficulties hasn’t aided the situation either. Shes extremely sensitive and has witnessed him suffering one too many times.

She cares so deeply for others that anxiety was inevitable. I have spent many years trying to figure out the best techniques to aid her woes. I’ve tried endlessly to comfort her.

I’ve failed on many occasions, but I think we are finally getting somewhere!

Below is my list of 10 fantastic phrases to say to an anxious child – I use each and every one with Mia when she is struggling and find they really work.

I hope you find the list useful – please let me know if they help you!

  • I am here.
  • You can talk to me, write it down or draw a picture.
  • You are safe.
  • How was your day? Did anything different happen?
  • Take a big breath, have a drink and then we’ll talk.
  • Mummy was little like you once, she knows how you are feeling.
  • We can fix it together.
  • It’s okay if you are worried, it is normal.
  • What do you need?
  • You are so loved.

As well as these phrases, it is important to create a good environment for anxious children.

A quiet space which isn’t too bright or too dark is perfect for allowing your child to unwind. A simple gesture such as an arm around their shoulders or holding their hand can help them to feel safe.

Many people, both young and old, often need some time alone to gather their thoughts.

Products such as the The Irish Fairy Door Company – Interactive Worry Plaque and the Worry Monster Plush Soft Toy blue & orange are also great tools for dealing with child anxiety.

And finally, allow them to rest. We all become irrational when we are not rested. Children are exactly the same. Ensure you promote sleep and negotiate a firm but calm bedtime routine.

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  1. 12/12/2017 / 13:50

    Great post! My fave is you are safe. This is my go to but I will definitely try some of the others now. Thank you for sharing 🌟

  2. 15/12/2017 / 09:56

    Great ideas, I have a little worrier too and we have found the Worry Plaque really helps in our house x

  3. 18/12/2017 / 10:10

    This is great advice and I’m sure that anyone with an anxious child will find it useful. I love the idea of getting them to draw their worries, I think most children would respond to this. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  4. 20/12/2017 / 20:54

    Thanks for this post. I’m a worrier, I always have been, and I worry (of course I do!) that my son is quite anxious too. Getting him to articulate things isn’t always the easiest – he’s only 3 and his speech still isn’t the best, so some of these ideas are great for that. I’m glad you feel you’re making progress – I hope that continues to improve! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  5. 04/01/2018 / 07:01

    I’m a worrier and naturally one of my biggest worries is that my little girl will grow up anxious too. She’s still little at the moment and unable to articulate what she’s going through but I hope I can be as supportive as you are. #sharingthebloglove

  6. 04/01/2018 / 12:36

    Great ideas, I have a very anxious child too and these are all ideas we have tried. Im still struggling with her but hoping something clicks! #sharingthebloglove

  7. 04/01/2018 / 15:04

    These are great ideas. My eldest is a big over thinker which makes him anxious. It’s hard to see them struggle. I’ll definitely be using some of these #sharingthebloglove

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