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It’s no secret that I’ve been a single parent for a few years now and I’m 100% okay with that. Myself and the children have our own little routines and traditions and we are blissfully happy, just the three of us. I’m not sure how I feel about the prospect of another person becoming a part of our little bubble. I know that one day, hopefully, I’ll meet someone and sooner or later, they will become part of our world but finding love again feels completely out of reach right now.
I’m open to the idea of love becoming a possibility in 2020, but I don’t want to rush anything, so this year I’m going to work on myself, my self-confidence and self-belief. I can’t expect anyone to love me if I don’t love myself, and I want to be in the best place emotionally to enter into a new relationship. I’m also aiming to reenter the dating game, but only when I find the right dating method for me. My theory is, if I take little steps, at a pace I am comfortable with, love might not seem like such an impossibility. I refuse to spend another year making half-hearted jokes with friends about how I’m going to be single forever or marry my dog.
We are only at the beginning of the year, but I’m already making progress. I’ve researched free dating site and made more time for self-care. There are so many dating options available, apps, websites such as matchmehappy and more traditional options such as blind dates and meeting a potential new partner through mutual friends or at a social event. It’s a minefield, but I’ll find the right option for me and potentially meet somebody who will remind me what love is.
In the past I’ve been guilty of rekindling an old flame or simply clinging onto something that just isn’t there anymore. I think the familiarity, no matter how wrong for me, was my comfort zone and the fear of the unknown kept me in the mindset of resigning myself to unhappiness. Love, or what we think is love, has a funny way of making us see life through rose tinted glasses. This year I’m moving forwards, not backwards, no second chances, I’m pushing myself out of my comfort zone instead of locking myself away within its walls.
I’m not one for resolutions, but I love to set myself small achievable goals. I firmly believe that if I continue to work towards self acceptance, and I continue to explore the dating world, I could be writing a blog post all about finding love again within the next 2/3 years. That’s my aim, fate will decide whether or not my aim is achievable and in the meantime I’m going to enjoy venturing into the world of love again. I’m not just a Mum, a friend, a daughter, or a sister. I’m Chloe, a hard-working single parent who deserves another shot at happiness. Will 2020 be the year of love? I’ll never know if I don’t try. Slow and steady wins the race as they say.