It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Christmas is just around the corner and the decade is coming to a close. We’re all looking forward to the festivities, but for many, including myself, the festive season is tinged with sadness. Loneliness at Christmas is more common than you think.
For single mothers like myself, Christmas can be a struggle. Not only do we carry the burden of creating a ‘perfect’ Christmas for our children, we also struggle with being on our own. Everywhere we look we see happy families full of Christmas cheer and the feeling of sadness in the pit of our stomachs is undeniable.
However, it’s important to try and conquer loneliness at Christmas. Not just for ourselves, but for our families too. Christmas is a time to hold your loved ones near and celebrate, not wish for something we don’t have. There are many ways in which you can try and conquer loneliness at Christmas. None of which are guaranteed to work, but following the advice below may help you to ease the void you feel not only at Christmas, but all year round.
- Fill the festive season with family fun. Making memories is the best way to remind yourself of how blessed you are.
- Use the start of a new year as a catalyst to search for a new partner. Online dating is perfect for those with busy lifestyles, especially single mothers. Dating sites such as Hampshire Dating Site are fantastic for those looking for love locally. It takes a lot to put yourself out there, but it’s so worth it.
- Instead of thinking about what is missing, think about what isn’t. Loneliness at Christmas can be crippling, and sometimes we struggle to remember that it isn’t all doom and gloom. Young mothers like myself often find themselves comparing their situation to what they’d imagined family life to be like growing up. Unfortunately, life isn’t a fairy tale and the harsh reality of ‘grown up’ life can hit us hard. Make sure you surround yourself with friends as well as family. Make the most of your loved ones.
- Make sure you make time for yourself. At Christmas we often find ourselves doing everything for everybody else and we often neglect ourselves. One of my favourite quotes is ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ and it’s so very true. Christmas isn’t just about the kids, it’s about everyone, including YOU.
Check out what is happening locally and get yourself out there. Surround yourself with people, whether that be strangers or loved ones, just being out of the house and around the festivities can boost your mood and ease the feeling of loneliness. There are always local carol concerts, Christmas markets and grotto’s to attend. You could even volunteer at a local shelter or food bank. Even if every part of you wants to stay indoors, push yourself physically and mentally. You will not regret it and the memories will last a lifetime. Nobody should be lonely at Christmas.