Dear Single Mothers, On Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day is just days away and mothers everywhere are wondering what Mother’s Day will bring this year. Some have husbands who organise gifts and treats on behalf of the children, some have grown up children who know exactly what their mum wants/needs, and others, like me, are single mothers, who do it all, who, unless family are involved, don’t get to celebrate Mother’s Day like other mother’s do.

If you are reading this and thinking, that’s me. This is for you, and all single mothers like you.

Dear Single Mothers,

How are you? I’m guessing you don’t get asked that often. Tough going this parenting lark isn’t it? I don’t know about you, but some days, I sit and think about how much my workload would lessen if I had somebody to share it with. Of course, many hands make light work and all that, but look how far you’ve come and what you have achieved, all on your own.

This Mother’s Day, gift yourself the joy of the realization that you are incredible. You are keeping small humans alive, and those small humans absolutely adore you. It’s you that they run to when they are sad or when they want a cuddle, it’s you that makes their lives as wonderful as they are. It’s you who gets to witness every milestone, every achievement and read every bedtime story. It may feel relentless and exhausting, but you wouldn’t have it any other way, would you?

Cut yourself some slack, ditch the washing up for one night and celebrate being you. You are an amazing mum, but more than that, you are an amazing person. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking of ourselves as ‘just a mum’, but we are so much more than that. We are sisters, friends, daughters, not just mothers, and it’s about time we remembered that.

This Mother’s Day, let go of the what if’s, stop wondering about how it could have been and embrace the hand you have been dealt. Have a movie day with the kids, make pizzas or go to the park, and then, when the sun goes down and the children fall asleep, celebrate yourself. Relax, unwind and reflect. Have a soak in the bath with a glass of wine. You deserve it.

Happy Mother’s Day

Love, Chloe x

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