I’m not afraid to admit I’m an introvert, especially when I’m around people I don’t know or when faced with unfamiliar surroundings. I tend to stick to what I know rather than trying new things, but I always find myself wondering whether I’m my own worst enemy. Am I missing out on fun and new experiences? Lately I’ve realised that instead of wondering what I am missing out on, I should just embrace the joy of missing out (JOMO).
Embracing JOMO was far easier to achieve than I thought it would be, Simply letting go of the thoughts of what I should or could be doing felt like a huge weight off my shoulders. My anxieties immediately reduced, I accepted that there is nothing wrong with preferring PJs and chocolate to heels and mojitos.
Other people my age spend most weekends being young and carefree, but that lifestyle doesn’t appeal to me. It never has, even before I became a Mum. I’ve always preferred staying in rather than going out. I’d rather stay home and save my pennies for something worthwhile instead of wasting money on something of no benefit.
I’ve spent so long wondering my introverted personality and anxieties make me different from other people my age, but the truth is, I don’t feel anything when I browse social media and see all the photos of old friends out having a good time. I don’t feel jealous or resentful, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest. The realisation that I should just embrace JOMO was quite a pivotal moment in me becoming more content with who I am.
I find the best way to embrace the joy of missing out is switching off entirely. Especially at weekends. A few months ago I stopped working on the blog seven days a week and instead decided to work Monday-Friday. This made weekends far less stressful as trying to balance work and motherhood was exhausting. It was hard at first, I had to be really strict with myself and not give in to the temptation of doing ‘just one more thing’. Eventually, perseverance paid off and now I get to enjoy weekends with my children and my friends without worrying.
Thanks to my smartphone, I find myself browsing social media far more than I probably should. The thing is, social media is both a blessing and a curse, so I’ve been trying to reduce quite how much time I spend browsing pointlessly. After all, missing a few status updates never killed anyone.
Social media often gives a very false perception of the lives of others. So next time you find yourself feeling envious, push those thoughts away. Social media only shows us what others want us to see, the truth is, we aren’t missing out on anything, we just feel like we are.
Reducing my use of social media and limiting my working hours has really helped me to fully embrace JOMO. JOMO is the ultimate self-care, focusing on myself and what I’m doing rather than what others are doing has transformed my way of thinking, and most importantly what I think about myself.
If you are feeling a little lost in a world full of people telling us what we should or could be doing, get