Over the past week or so, I’ve been quieter than usual on social media. No new blog posts have been published or even started. I’ve had a short unplanned break from blogging life. I just didn’t have any inclination to write or share anything. This is a first for me, this blog is incredibly important to me and I am so proud of the business I have created.
At first, my lack of motivation to write blog posts or use social media concerned me. I feared that I had lost my mojo or simply fallen out of love with the career I was pursuing. In a bid to reassure myself, I told myself it was just a simple case of writer’s block. I have been insanely busy recently, I thought maybe my mind just needed a rest. As the days went by, I made a conscious effort to stop justifying taking a break.
The beauty of being self-employed is that I am my own boss, I don’t have to call in sick or take leave. Running a blog fits perfectly around me, my life and my children and if I don’t post on social media or write any blog posts for a short while, that is perfectly okay. The only person I have to answer to is myself, so with that, I cut myself some slack and made the most of my unplanned blog and social media siesta.
For years now I have lived and breathed my blog, I have put my all into making it successful and earning an income to provide for my children. Just The Three Of Us is one of my biggest passions. The thing about having a passion is, when it starts getting tiresome, its no longer a passion. From taking a break I have learned that it is okay to say no sometimes, no matter how much you love what you do. Don’t punish yourself for shying away from social media or neglecting your emails. Swap your computer for that book you’ve been trying to read for months and enjoy the moment instead of taking photos for your social media platforms.
Can you really call your business a success if your business becomes a chore? At the end of the day, somethings got to give, and that shouldn’t be your well-being. My social media/blogging break came from nowhere, but it did me the world of good. I gave myself more time to just be me, and eventually, my writing mojo came back. It’s only been 10 days or so, not long, but taking a break had become so unnatural for me that when I didn’t have it in me to write or tweet or post, I panicked that it was all over. I feared that my love of blogging and everything that comes alongside blogging had gone forever.
That fear made me realize that from now onwards, I need to remind myself that I’m not just a blogger. I’m a Mum, a daughter, a friend, not a typing machine. I’ve learned that as a society, we are far too consumed by the online world. I don’t ever want to feel like I’m a failure just because I’m not in the mood to produce content or share anything on social media. Staying away from social media shouldn’t feel like such a huge deal, but for many of us, it does. We’ve become so emersed in the online world, that we find ourselves reliant on it and that’s something I’m determined to change.
I’d much rather produce blog posts and social media content that I’m passionate about every few days than share and write daily just because everyone else does. I bet if you asked those who write and post every single day how they feel about it, they’ll probably tell you that they often find it exhausting.
We all need to realize that quality is far more important than quantity and that nobody should feel pressured into being present online. I think the biggest and most important thing I have learned from my social media siesta is that if we try and keep up with everyone else, we’ll stop being ourselves. The world isn’t going to end if you don’t publish 3 blog posts a week, and Instagram will survive without our seemingly idyllic images. Life isn’t a race, it’s not about being the best and winning the race, it’s simply about taking part and being a part of something that has the potential to be truly wonderful.