Long distance relationships always seem so easy in the movies, almost blissful in fact. It’s usually a case of a chance meeting, a fleeting romance and then a heart-wrenching ‘see you soon’ which pulls at our heart strings. The thing is, in the movies, we see the rose-tinted version, the happily ever after against the odds, when in reality, a long distance relationship isn’t as easy as it is portrayed.
Today I want to share with you the realities of long distance relationships. I speak from experience when I detail the highs and lows of falling in love with somebody who lives far away. 10 years ago I was in a relationship with somebody who lived in a neighbouring country for a short while. Unfortunately it didn’t work out, mainly due to the distance being too much for our naive hearts to cope with. However, you’ll be pleased to know that not all of the truths I list below are negative. In fact, there are several positives to being in a long distance relationships.
If you are thinking about pursuing a long distance relationship, make sure you consider the pro’s and con’s carefully. If you decide a long distance relationship isn’t for you, local dating could be more suitable.
Local to Glasgow? Take a look at Date Glasgow Singles or other local dating sites such as The Glasgow Dating Site and Mature Glasgow Dating. These sites, and those similar for other regions, are fantastic for people who are looking for love locally, rather than far away. So, without further ado, let’s discuss the unspoken, the realities, both positive and negative, of long distance relationships.
- Communication is essential. Without communication or the ability to be anywhere near each other, your long distance relationship won’t stand a chance. Make use of modern technology such as video calls.
- You’ll appreciate the time you do get to spend together so much more when that time doesn’t occur as regularly as ‘normal’ relationships.
- Making memories is more important than ever, because when you are apart, photographs and memories are what you will cherish.
- There’s no need for grand gestures of love, it’s the little things that matter.
- The days and weeks apart will go slowly. But, when you are together, time will fly by in the blink of an eye.
- You’ll quickly discover the strength of your relationship. If your relationship can survive the test of time, it can survive anything.
- When you visit your partner, or they visit you, it’ll be like a stay-cation! Escaping to another region for a few days can do wonders for the soul. You and your partner won’t just get to spend time together. You’ll get to reinvigorate yourself and have a little break from day-to-day life.
- Sometimes life will get in the way, your schedules will clash and time together won’t be possible. It’s important to have patience and be understanding.
- Your friends and family will either be completely supportive, or they’ll constantly ask questions like ‘why do you bother when he/she is so far away’ and ‘well, don’t complain you miss them when you knew what you were getting into’. It’s really hard for outsiders to understand what a long distance relationship feels like unless they’ve experienced similar.
- Saying goodbye is never easy, and it doesn’t get easier as the relationship develops. The last cuddle before you drive away will always be bittersweet.