Despite Mia’s bubbly and happy exterior, she is a worrier.
She worries about tiny things, big things, and everything in between.
I often wonder why she an anxious child. Sometimes I blame myself, I wonder whether my own severe anxiety has somehow been inherited. I strongly believe that having a little brother with a number of health difficulties hasn’t aided the situation either. Shes extremely sensitive and has witnessed him suffering one too many times.
She cares so deeply for others that anxiety was inevitable. I have spent many years trying to figure out the best techniques to aid her woes. I’ve tried endlessly to comfort her.
I’ve failed on many occasions, but I think we are finally getting somewhere!
Below is my list of 10 fantastic phrases to say to an anxious child – I use each and every one with Mia when she is struggling and find they really work.
I hope you find the list useful – please let me know if they help you!
- I am here.
- You can talk to me, write it down or draw a picture.
- You are safe.
- How was your day? Did anything different happen?
- Take a big breath, have a drink and then we’ll talk.
- Mummy was little like you once, she knows how you are feeling.
- We can fix it together.
- It’s okay if you are worried, it is normal.
- What do you need?
- You are so loved.
As well as these phrases, it is important to create a good environment for anxious children.
A quiet space which isn’t too bright or too dark is perfect for allowing your child to unwind. A simple gesture such as an arm around their shoulders or holding their hand can help them to feel safe.
Many people, both young and old, often need some time alone to gather their thoughts.
Products such as the The Irish Fairy Door Company – Interactive Worry Plaque and the Worry Monster Plush Soft Toy blue & orange are also great tools for dealing with child anxiety.
And finally, allow them to rest. We all become irrational when we are not rested. Children are exactly the same. Ensure you promote sleep and negotiate a firm but calm bedtime routine.
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