Family occasions and celebrations of love and unity such as Valentines Day and Christmas are tough for single parents. No matter how hard we try to focus on the positives, concentrate on the children and make the best of things, sometimes the feeling of loneliness is unavoidable.
I’m not afraid to admit that I often wish I had somebody alongside me to face life’s challenges and celebrate special occasions with. I’m quite a romantic person, so for me Valentines Day can be a struggle. This Valentines Day I’m making a conscious effort to embrace rather than envy, make the most of the day in the situation I am in and celebrate Valentines Day in my own unique way.
Who says the Valentines Day is just for couples?
Yes, it’s the day of love, but that doesn’t automatically mean we have to have a partner to celebrate it. I love my children, my friends, my family, even my dog! So this year I’m surviving Valentines Day by loving those around me, and myself. It’s so easy to get caught up in what we see on social media, images of picture perfect couples and romantic gestures are everywhere at this time of year, my advice is to turn off your phone and embrace the situation you are in.
Bake Valentines treats with the children, help them to create Valentines cards for family and friends, take them along to the local florist and let them choose a bouquet of flowers for you to remind you of your special day together. Let the children take control of the day, let them choose a family activity. Remind yourself and your children of this quote – ‘we may not have it all together, but together, we have it all’. My focus this Valentines Day is on us as a family and our friends and family, and that’s just the way it should be.
Evenings are the most difficult time of day for single parents. Once the children have gone to bed there are no distractions, we are alone with our thoughts. I’m not going to spent my Valentines evening wallowing this year. Instead I’m going to practice self-care and self-love, pamper myself and maybe even finally finish the book I’ve been reading for months. After all, we can’t truly love others without first loving ourselves, so Valentines Day is the perfect excuse for a little self-indulgence.
Valentines Day needn’t be doom and gloom, take my advice and have fun!